Tuesday, April 30, 2013

RS Lesson - April 28, 2013

The RS lesson for Sunday was taken from two messages from the 2012 October General Conference; Trial of Your Faith by Elder Neil L. Andersen (p39), and By Faith All Things Are Fulfilled by Elder Marcus B. Nash (p99). 
I agreed to give the RS lesson (substitute) and was excited about these messages. I remember loving them as they were given. Then I started reading and preparing and realized that the last RS lesson I gave was on Faith and I was worried about how I would approach and present this lesson so that it would not be the same ole thing I had previously done.

As I was re-reading the messages there seemed to be one thing that stood out to me - something that I really didn't want to do, but it seemed that I should do.  I would begin with the question "What is Faith?" - really?  It seemed so childish, but as I continued going through those messages I was convinced that that was the direction my lesson would take, and it would continue throughout the whole lesson ... "What is Faith? - Really!"
Of course - when the Lord gives you a direction, you'd better take it!  So I did!

The lesson began with that question and we spent the rest of the time sharing quotes and scriptures and filling the chalkboard with words that answer the question "What is Faith?".  The lesson plan I prepared follows, but did not go exactly as written (I knew it wouldn't), because I handed out several quotes and scriptures for others to read and asked that they share them, and any other comments and experiences they might like to share, at any time through the lesson - whenever they felt prompted.  I am grateful that the spirit touched their hearts to share when they did - we have a wonderful group of women in our Relief Society.


 

Start with this sentence from Elder Nash –  “All things are fulfilled by faith.” (p99)
This faith we talk of today is the faith in Jesus Christ.  Our faith must be centered in Jesus Christ in   order to produce salvation.” (Bible dict)

So what is faith?   (FAITH =)

Elder Andersen said; “The gift of faith is a priceless spiritual endowment”. (p39)

Elder Nash said that "faith is both a principle of action and of power."   (p99)  (action = something we do and power = something we gain or receive)  
 
At this point the chalk board looked something like this:
FAITH =           ACTION / DO =            POWER / GAIN =
gift
endowment
 
(The lesson continued, and all of the words that are underlined were added in the correct place on the board.)


Faith is a hope…, an assurance…, a confidence in something or someone.  (p99+)

“Faith in Jesus Christ is the first principle of the gospel and is more than belief, since true faith always moves its possessor to some kind of physical and mental action; it carries an assurance of the fulfillment of the things hoped for.” (Bible dict.)     

 
How do we get faith? (this is the “action/something we do” part) (OBTAIN FAITH= was added under ACTION/DO)

Bible dictionary says; “Although faith is a gift, it must be cultured and sought after…”
Pray / pray always / pray for increased faith / find answers to your prayers  (seek it) (receive answers) (p39, 99)
Patiently wait  (p99)                                          
Press forward with hope (p99)
Believe and Trust God (according to His timing) (p39-42, 99-101)
Fear not (p42, 100)
Study Scriptures  (ponder(40+) “You are to teach the scriptures… (which also means then, that we are to learn them) … therein we find principles of truth that will resolve every confusion and every problem and every dilemma that will face the human family or any individual in it.”  (Elder Packer)
Obey / Learn and Live the gospel – “All true faith must be based upon correct knowledge or it cannot produce the desired results.” (Bible dict.)
Attend church meetings / Meet together with others who believe.  (p40+)
Partake of the sacrament. (p40)
Worship thru music (in our meetings, homes, vehicles, etc.) (p40)
Share testimony of the Savior. (p40)
Serve one another. (p40)
Feel the spirit of the Lord / Invite it (p40, 100)
Receive blessings of the priesthood. (p40)
Attend the temple. (p40)  “In the ordinances, the power of godliness is manifest, when you are faced with a test of faith, stay within the safety and security of the household of God.  There is always a place for you here.  No trial is so large we can’t overcome it together.”

The April 2013 Vting message encourages us to make and keep sacred temple covenants, and           quotes President Monson, saying; “As we remember the covenants we make within the temple, we will be more able to bear every trial and to overcome each temptation.” 
There was also a story about the early saints who received strength, power, and blessings through temple covenants, and they testified that it was those temple covenants that sustained them. 
We too can be sustained by our temple covenants!


How do we keep or strengthen our faith / How do we remain steadfast and immovable during a trial of faith? 

Same answers as above. (add / KEEP FAITH= beside OBTAIN FAITH)

It is within the sanctuary of the Church that we protect our faith.  (p39, 40) (attend church)
“The church is not a place where perfect people gather to say perfect things or have perfect thoughts, or have perfect feelings. The church is a place where imperfect people gather to provide encouragement, support and service to each other as we press on in our journey to return to our Heavenly Father.”  (Joseph B. Wirthlin)

“You immerse yourself in the very things that helped build your core of faith; you exercise faith in Christ, you pray, you ponder the scriptures, you repent, you keep the commandments, and you serve others.” (p40, 99, 100)

 (I love the word immerse in that sentence – “immerse yourself in the very things that helped build your core of faith”.  Immerse is to “plunge into something that surrounds or covers” – plunge into the very things that helped build your core of faith so that it may surround and cover you.)

 (Another word in that sentence stood out to me – exerciseWe often hear that word when we hear about faith – exercise faith.  I think it gives extra meaning to faith – Webster says that “exercise is an act of employing or putting into play; something performed or practiced in order to develop, improve, or display a specific capability or skill.”  Perfect isn’t it! )

“We treasure our faith …, and do all within our power to protect and defend our faith” (p39)

(Most anything we get or gain can be lost – usually through neglect or forgetfulness, but sometimes as with losing weight, we even put much effort into it.  Consider that as we discuss the next question.)

 
How can we lose our faith?  (HOW LOSE FAITH=)

We must be aware of all of the obstacles in our way to lead us off the path of faith.
“Satan will use such things as doubt, fear, or sin to tempt us to let go of faith and lose the protection it offers” (p100)

  
Doubt - Stop believing & trusting in the Lord – Unbelief in the Lord or His gospel will cause us to resist the Spirit of God.”   (p100)  

READ Mosiah 4:9
Believe in God; believe that he is, and that he created all things, both in heaven and in earth;   believe that he has all wisdom, and all power, both in heaven and in earth; believe that man        doth not comprehend all the things which the Lord can comprehend.”

 
Elder Nash said that “If, because of unbelief or doubt, you find your faith wavering … keep in mind that “faith and reason are necessary companions”, and then he asked that we consider the following analogy –   “faith and reason are like the two wings of an aircraft. Both are essential to maintain flight. If from your perspective, reason seems to contradict faith, pause and remember that our perspective is extremely limited compared with the Lords. Do not discard faith any more than you would detach a wing from an aircraft in flight. Instead, nurture a particle of faith and permit the hope it produces to be an anchor to your soul – and to your reason.”  (p100)

Fear – Fear distracts from and undermines faith in the Savior. (p100+)  
Remember “the Apostle Peter looked to the Lord one stormy night as he walked on water, until he averted his gaze and saw the wind, boisterous, and he became afraid, and then sank into the stormy sea.  He could have continued walking had he not feared.”
“Rather than focusing upon and fearing the boisterous wind and waves in our lives, the Lord invites us to ‘look unto Him in every thought; doubt not, fear not.” (p42, 100)

 
Sin / Heeding the temptations of Satan causes us to lose faith.  “Sin diminishes the presence of the spirit in our lives, and without the Holy Ghost, we will lack the spiritual stamina to hold on to  and exercise faith.”    (100, 40)                        (be worthy of Holy Ghost)

Bible dictionary says that “A lack of faith leads one to despair, which comes because of iniquity.”

Pride / Love praise of men more than praise of God (John 12:43)
Blinded eyes / Hardened heart  (John 12:40)
Stop praying, studying the scriptures, following Christ’s teachings  (42, 99 +)

 
Be diligent in keeping all the commandments, lest your faith fail you.  If sin has stained your life, I invite you to exercise faith unto repentance, and the Savior, thru the Atonement, will purify and heal  your life.” (p100, 101)

“Remember that faith precedes and produces miracles.” (p100)

 “Faith brings us the power of the Lord, which - among other things – is manifested by a hope of good things to come, miracles that confirm our faith, and divine protection in spiritual and temporal matters.” (p99)

 
READ D&C 27:15&17
“Wherefore, lift up your hearts and rejoice, and gird up your loins, and take upon you my whole armor, that ye may be able to withstand the evil day, having done all, that ye may be able to stand.”
“Taking the shield of faith wherewith ye shall be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked”                                                    
(and then in vs 18 He encourages us to  be faithful until I come”)

If we have the shield of faith about us we will find that divine protection promised the faithful. (p100)

 Elder Andersen said; “Whatever you do, [DO NOT] step away from the church! Distancing yourself from the kingdom of God during a trial of faith is like leaving the safety of a secure storm cellar just as the tornado comes into view.”  (p40)

                                                                                                                       
Elder Andersen said that “fiery trials are designed to make you stronger, but they have the potential to diminish or even destroy your trust in the Son of God and to weaken your resolve to keep your promises to Him.
These trials are often camouflaged, making them difficult to identify.  They take root in our weaknesses, our vulnerabilities, our sensitivities, or in those things that matter most to us. 
A real manageable test for one can be a fiery trial for another.” (p40)

 
In our RS broadcast a few weeks ago, Sister Burton shared something with us that fits so perfectly here.  She said; “When our faith is shaken, when we begin to doubt and wonder we may question,  Why does the Lord allow suffering and adversity to come to us in this life?”   (we question)

In answer to this question she said; “Simply put, it is part of the plan for our growth and progress Our needed conversions are often achieved more readily by suffering and adversity than by comfort and tranquility.”
All that is unfair about life can and will be made right thru the Atonement of Jesus Christ.”
Stay close to Him.

“The Lord will, according to our faith, fulfill His promises and work with us to overcome every challenge.”  (p100) (He will work with us)

He will bless each of us with hope, protection, and power according to our faith in Him.” (p100)

 “Steadfast faith in the Lord Jesus Christ will anchor us and our loved ones, to ‘the rock of our Redeemer and His matchless power to save.” (we’ll be savedeternal life)  - “By faith one obtains a remission of sins and eventually can stand in the presence of God.” (Bible dict.)

 “If we are strongly and securely attached to the Rock of our Redeemer, faith will help us to safely climb the gospel path, overcome every challenge of mortality, and return to the majestic presence of our Heavenly Father.”  (p99)

 
(a note on my book mark)  “The right path will always be uphill.”   And one thing to remember here is that uphill leads to God – it will always be worth it, every step will be worth it; every stumble, every large or tiny upward progression will be worth it.

 
“By definition, trials will be trying.  There may be anguish confusion, sleepless nights, and pillows wet with tears.  But trials need not be spiritually fatal.  They need not take us from our covenants or from the household of God.” (p41)

READ Helaman 5:12
“And now, my sons, remember, remember that it is upon the rock of our Redeemer, who is Christ, the Son of God, that ye must build your foundation; that when the devil shall send forth his mighty winds, yea, when all his hail and his mighty storm shall beat upon you, it shall have no power over you to drag you down to the gulf of misery and endless wo, because of the rock upon which ye are built, which is a sure foundation, a foundation whereon if men build they cannot fall.” (build your foundation on Christ)

Sister Hinckley has said;  “There are some years in our lives that we would not want to live again.  But even these years will pass away, and the lessons learned will be a future blessing.” 
(She continued with this scripture)
D&C 24:8 –Be patient in afflictions, for thou shalt have many; but endure them, for lo, I am with thee, even unto the end of thy days.  
She also said;  Keep the Faith.  It pays such great dividends!”  (Small and Simple Things p100-103)

“Like the intense fire that transforms iron into steal, as we remain faithful during the fiery trial of our faith, we are spiritually refined and strengthened.” (p42)

“With faith comes trials of faith, bringing increased faith.” (p42)

“Where there is true faith there are miracles, visions, dreams, healings, and all the gifts of God that he gives to his saints.
By it one can command the elements and/or heal the sick, or influence any number of circumstances when occasion warrants.”   (Bible dict)

Hold on.  Fear Not.  For God shall be with you forever and ever. (p42)

I will close as did Elder Nash, with a quote from our prophet (a favorite of mine)
“Your future is as bright as your faith” (p100) (Bright Future)

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When the lesson was over, the chalkboard was filled with words.  I created a visual to help show what the chalkboard might have looked like, though this visual is much neater than the chalkboard writing was.  I tried to remember everything that the sisters added, but I'm sure I am forgetting some.  This list is not meant to be a complete list, so feel free to add your own as you read thru it.






The filled chalkboard was a visual that our eyes beheld and it touched our hearts to see it before us.
I was very grateful for the divine guidance and direction given me as I prepared, and for the help presenting it. 
Fact:
I had a cold (runny nose and sneezing often) before I started the lesson and I worried that I would waste too much time taking care of my nose during the lesson.  I was armed with Kleenex within reach and when the meeting was over I realized I hadn't needed a single tissue.  How's that for help from above!  Pretty perfect I'd say.  
It is Tuesday as I write this, and the cold and runny nose are still with me, but I'm grateful for the 45 minutes of healing I received Sunday.  :)   I've gone through more than one box of Kleenex already.

Keep the Faith.  It pays such great dividends!”

Tuesday, April 16, 2013

A Bitter Heart

For a while now I have given thought to a certain time in my life when my heart was bitter about my circumstances and conditions.   Each time I have thought about it I have also felt inspired to share my story here.  I have attempted to write it several times, but have also hesitated each time knowing that it would incriminate me. I really am embarrassed by it.  Listening to General Conference prodded me, so once again I attempted to complete this story but didn't succeed.  Attending Skyler's college graduation was the final prod I needed, and I am sitting to complete it for the final attempt.  This experience isn't something that I am proud of or pleased with, aside from the fact that I am grateful to have been able to recognize and overcome the evil within. 

I want to start out by saying that I love my children - each and every one of them.  This story in no way should, nor is intended to make any statement contrary to that fact.

My story is about hearts.  They are our very life.  But this story isn't about the beating of a heart in a physical sense, but about the spiritual part of the heart, which in many ways is just as important.  Our hearts are what help us feel ..., really feel.  Therefore we need to keep them happy and never harbor hatred or bitterness.  For hatred and bitterness are destroyers of happiness and joy and peace.

Okay, enough preface, on with my story -

After having a few boys added to our family I really wanted a girl. At one point I was feeling rather bitter about things and wondering why Heavenly Father wasn't answering what I thought was a righteous desire and request. 
Don't get me wrong - I loved (and still love) my boys, each one of them, and wouldn't trade any of them for anyone or any thing else. But that love didn't stop me from wanting a girl too. I know that there are others out there who at the same time would have given anything for a child - girl or boy, so why should I complain?  (I might add, that I have felt that feeling for a short time in my life too.)  I also saw at the same time that there were young girls out there who shouldn't even be having children, getting pregnant and having a girl.  What was up with that?  Are you sensing the bitterness I was feeling?  I'm just trying to paint this picture as it really was - telling it like it is type of thing.

I'm not sure how many boys I had before I began feeling so bitter about it, and I'm sure it was a gradual thing, but I can especially remember one experience (and can vividly envision it in my mind as I think back on it today) when I wept bitterly and felt almost angry against the Lord for not granting me this blessing.  I was telling my visiting teachers about my desire and while doing so I was able to feel my body tremble and a coldness overcome me.  I remember recognizing that I was "out of control" ..., this was not what I wanted to feel.  I was not who I wanted to be.  I didn't like that bitter feeling inside of me.  The Lord's Spirit had left me.  These sweet sisters listened lovingly, and surely wondered what to say or do that could console me.  I'm sure the Lord was inspiring them because they said and did exactly what I needed at the time.  Even though I don't remember their exact words, I do remember the love they expressed to me and the hope they gave me as they shared their love for me and their love for the Lord.   I wish I could remember their words, but do recognize that what I felt may have come from more than spoken words.   I knew then that I needed to pray for forgiveness and come to terms with the fact that I did not have a daughter.  I had to remember to trust in the Lord, to love Him.  Possibly most importantly,  I knew that my prayers needed to change from "please give me a daughter" to "please give me peace".   I had to stop dwelling on my discouragement and start dwelling on something that would take my heart to a happy place.  Christ would be that happy place.

I can tell you that my prayers did change and my heart changed also.  In time, I recognized that I had come a long way.  After my seventh son I was feeling a great peace and even felt comfortable with being done with our family of seven boys. There was no bitterness left in me.  I felt good inside.  I felt peace and love from above.  I was content.  I was happy.  It was a great feeling and I was grateful for it.

My story doesn't end there, but it could have and life would have been great because I had found a happy place.  I find it interesting that it was only after this peace came to me that I was given a daughter. Child number eight, that I wasn't sure I was even going to have, was a surprise package ready to be dressed in pink (at least for a few years).   And to prove His love for me, the Lord then sent us one more son, child number nine, to complete our family. 

There is much more to this story that I left unsaid, but I am grateful for the change of heart that took place, and for those two sisters who truly were inspired to encourage and love and inspire me to be a better person.  Their hearts were where they needed to be when I needed them.  I am so grateful for that.   One of those sisters has since past away, but I will remember her always because of the love shared from her heart to mine that day.  The other sister remains my friend and without even knowing, continues to touch my heart in numerous ways.  They each hold a special place in my heart.

I have learned that true joy comes from what Christ sends us, whatever that is.  It does not always come from our desires, though sometimes we are lucky enough that those two things are the same.  It's how we handle what He sends us that makes us who we are and guides us to a happy place.

I love this quote - it fits perfectly for my story - I must remember this for all areas of my life!

“I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it.”
Maya Angelou


Because the quotes I heard at Skyler's graduation are still recent enough for me to remember, I am adding them here. You'll probably see why they prompted me to continue writing my story.   As usual, I will enjoy reading the conference messages to remind myself of those great words, and maybe I'll share some of those thoughts as I come to them.

Quotes from April 2013 BYU-I  graduation: (FYI - these were each from different speakers)

- "In all thy getting get understanding" and "lean not unto thine own understanding but trust in the Lord" (two scriptures that fit so well together)
 
- "This time, like all times, is a very good one, if we but know what to do with it" (quote from Ralph Waldo Emerson)
 
- "How we react to our failures can be more important than how we react to our successes"

I thought I was going to close here, but another thought keeps coming to my mind - it's a phrase in a children's book, and maybe even the title of it - Better Move On Frog! 
(I don't remember the story of that book, but the title is what fits here.)
When we find our hearts becoming hardened or bitter we'd better move on to a happier place, and we'd better recognize that the happier place is closer to Christ and His teachings.  That's all there is to it.  Forget and forgive and move on.


and lastly - a Japanese Proverb


image from here